Haunted By Lovers

When has it reached that point where enough is enough?
People say that love can make you do some strange things, but is it love making you do these things or your decision to block out all reasonable decisions because you want to believe the happiness your feeling or have felt in the past with your lover will sustain you?

Sustenance, do you really understand the concept of it?
Why do we believe or allow ourselves to think that a relationship where one of you lies your way through is sustainable? That's called torture. We believe on so many levels that "Things will get better", "We are going through a phase", or "He loves me but he just isn't ready to commit just yet so I will wait." Did it ever occur to you that things are just not meant to be?

From personal experience, I know I have brushed off the lies, brushed off the fact that a guy just wasn't on my level intellectually, brushed off the disconnect and even the cheating. Finally I got to the point where I had to say enough is truly enough. I realized I was settling. Since my freshmen year of college, I have held on to a lover who at first glance caught my eye, who I envisioned being someone I could have in my life for many moons and sunrises to come. I wished, and forced this lover into my perception of what I wanted us to be only to realize semesters down the road, he isn't going to be that stereotype for me. "College Sweetheart" The more I tried to force him into that role, the more it was revealed to me that he was not meant to be.

Once you have realized this, or have had any thought or reasonable doubt, usually that means walk away. Trust your instincts. Make sure you let go of this person body, mind and spirit. If you fail to do so your lover will Haunt you. Not in a spooky demonic way, but in a way where you will be grocery shopping and have a thought of him or her and it is such a strong thought or memory that you get all bent out of shape, or you see something and it reminds you of that person, or to the point that it has compelled me to write this post, that you dream about this person and in your dream the very thing you have always wanted from this person and for the two of you it will come true. For me my dream last night was him finally committing to me and it was the sweetest most endearing dream I can remember having. When I woke up I remember it was only a dream. I was being haunted by a lover.

Today I encourage you to let the ghosts of your lovers go. Everyman you have be with even if not in a physical way, but everyman you had a thing for or a man you loved. Because, being haunted by a lover, can blur your future loves and you could miss out on another opportunity to love and be loved in return.